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“I Hate It – But I Support It”

Today was relaxing. We did not have to go anywhere so there was no schedule to adhere to. Fizz and I went to the gym this morning after we had breakfast. I went to my first Power Yoga class! I absolutely loved it! After the gym we went to the Farmer’s Market in Wayne.

AHH-Mazing

We picked up watermelon, blueberries, peaches, beets, summer squash, and a canary melon (which I have never tried so I am excited)!.

We were able to spend a lot of quality time together this weekend, which is rare during marathon training. I know Fizz has mixed feelings about how time-consuming marathon training is. As he is not a runner, I wanted to have him share his feelings with everyone so I asked him a couple of basic questions about the topic for today’s post.

ASHLEY: Marathon training takes up A LOT of my time. We don’t spend this time together. Why are you ok with that?

FIZZ: Who said I was ok with it? Just kidding… Although I am not thrilled with the time it takes away from spending together, I support it because it is something that you love to do to and when you are happy I am too.

ASHLEY: Awe. That is sweet, but has there ever been a time where you thought I was being unfair to you or our relationship due to training?

FIZZ: Yes. Every weekend when you have a race because it means we can’t do things together.

ASHLEY: What! I am back by 10 am.

FIZZ: But we can’t make plans to go away somewhere because of all of the races.

ASHLEY: Good point.

FIZZ: I also don’t like when you insist on sleeping in NYC when you insist you need to run in the morning as if NYC is the only place with ground to run on.

ASHLEY: On a lighter note, what is your favorite thing about my running?

FIZZ: You stay in shape, exercise and are healthy. Also, I was thinking, your Garmin watch that I gave to you has a virtual running partner. Can’t you just race yourself instead of running races?

ASHLEY: NO.

 

EDITOR’S NOTE: I do sleep in NYC one or two times a week so I can run in the morning before work. It is easier than taking the bus from NJ at 5:30. 

OK so what did we learn today? Marathon training takes up a lot of my time. I run Tuesday in the morning and at night, Thursday morning and I do a long run on Saturday where I am gone anywhere from 2-4 hours. On top of that there are gym sessions and I also like to spend some time with my friends.

Although Fizz has mixed feelings about the time I spend training, I know that he will always be my biggest supporter and my biggest fan.  He has traveled all over the east coast with me to watch me run (the same goes to some of my friends and family). I am appreciative of all of his support. I believe when you are committed to someone, it is important to understand one another’s needs to pursue passions. He would never hold me back from doing what I love and I would never hold him back from his passions and it is one of things that makes our relationship strong!

There are a couple of things I thought of that can help the situation of unease regarding training and racing:

  • Take both of our schedules into consideration before signing up for a race (Note: this is a new thought after this interview. I will now consult with Fizz before rapid fire registering for NYRR races).
  • Plan training when it is convenient for your significant other and/or family
  • Continue to always communicate with one another about everything
  • Focus on quality time when together – making sure the relationship remains fun!

 

What is your favorite thing to get at the farmer’s market? (For North Jersey readers, what is your favorite farmer’s market!!!??)

How do you balance training and a successful relationship?

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